It goes without saying: if you try to be like your influencers... you're doing it the wrong way. Sure, it’s great to be inspired—but you’ll never be like them. I know that you’re ambitious and pushing for success, and want to give value that will get you the results that you desire, but I also know that it’s deeper than that.
And I don’t mean results like diplomas or trophies in your office— I’m talking about providing value that will make your tribe have a better life, business, and lifestyle. And as a result, you’ll have a life that feels good to you— like being your own boss, having a successful online program, or a book release.
But like I said before, I know that it’s deeper than that. You’d like to be:
- Respected in your community — big or small
- Known for your integrity, and passion to serve others
- Recognized as someone who is results-oriented, and has a mindset of “no excuses”
- Considered someone who decided to put their dreams into action —because they believed that there is a better way than to be “stuck”
And I know that it’s a challenge to get there, but there is a way. Start with what you already have. Here’s what I mean: You have a unique style, different strengths, and your own tribe. You went through different and exciting experiences to be where you are today. The way people see their influencers is not the way they see you — and that’s a good thing.
For instance: What kind of fame do you want? Do you want to be known like Kim Kardashian? Or someone respected in their community — where you can peacefully grab a coffee and muffin without the paparazzi? Or, do you want to be a one-man shop doing your own thing? A small boutique of 10 people or so? Maybe a company of 500+? It all really comes down to the core — what do you want for yourself? It’s okay to be inspired, but you don’t want to be like them.
"The greatest value you can add is to become more of yourself." -sally hogshead
The more you share your personal story, mission, and value with the world—the more authentic you are—the more you highlight your differences. Besides — if you were exactly like your influencers, then how would you stand out? How would you give the value that’s right for your tribe? And even more important, how would you get the results that you want—without doing it ‘good enough’ or relying on luck?
One of the best ways to improve your performance and achieve your goals is to work on the internal stuff, not the external.
Life is more than just diplomas or trophies in your office - it’s about knowing who you are, and what you stand for. Instead of trying to be like someone else, become more of you. What matters the most is what goes on inside of you. What were the struggles or challenges that got you that prize? Why did you want that prize? How did it make you feel? Did you fall and manage to get up? These are the things that make you you.
I see this happen all the time—seeing kids going to universities, not knowing what they want to do. It happens, and sometimes it takes longer to discover what you want to do — but going to school to satisfy a parent’s wishes or to get a 6-figure salary is wrong. You’ll never feel fulfilled, and seeing that diploma will be a constant reminder that you did not follow your passion.
simon sinek said:
"Taking a job for the cash is not as important as taking a job for the joy."
It’s always better to say, “I believe when people take care of themselves mentally, physically and emotionally, their life is more joyful. I want to help people to reach their desired results to live their life joyfully.”
Gain clarity by asking yourself deep questions:
- What do you love doing?
- What do you want for your customers?
- What do you want to create for the world?
- What do you want for yourself?
- What is your why?
Answering these questions will help you gain clarity in your life and business. You will see that it fulfills your passion, changes lives, and rewards you.
You can have the most amazing online program, or the best education in the country, and not leverage your strength at the same time. It makes me sad when I see people who are talented at what they do, but don’t believe in themselves. It happens to all of us (even me) but the more I see this, the more I realize that this is the not the way.
I want people to believe that they can shine like sunlight touching the world. Again — this point refers to internal (how you feel) rather than external (what it looks like on the outside). You must believe that you have the strength and ability to create what you want.
There are two ways to figure out what your strengths are:
Listen to your inner mentor. Tara Mohr speaks to this perfectly: Tuning in to your inner mentor is the key to creating the life you’ve always dreamed of living. The concept is simple, yet powerful — you’ll learn to tap into your wisdom, and break free from “shoulds”, expectations or “I could never do that” (read about your inner critic here). Your inner mentor is the part that knows what you’re meant to do.
Ask your friends, parents, and/or co-workers. It’s always interesting to see and learn how people see you. Of course, people who are close to you may be biased — hence, all the more reason to ask someone that you don’t know very well. You can do this in many formats: E-mail 20 people and ask them to list 3 strengths of yours, or ask your co-workers at lunch time. You can even post the question on social media. You’ll be surprised by the results —and they’ll make you realize that you have the potential.
I recommend The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle La Porte — she gives concise yet soulful practices on finding your purpose and how you want to feel. Because we both know that it all starts with you — only you can give you the results that you desire.
To give value that will in turn get you the results you desire ultimately depends on the choices you make for yourself. It’s why you’re doing what you’re doing, what you’re doing, and how you will do it. Once you know the answers to those questions–the universe will respond in ways that you’ve never thought of.